May 29th, 2001


Inner Child Speaks

After I joined this community, I read over messages in a spiritual/new age kinda mailing list I am a member of. One of the members posted this. Great timing, I think. I suppose we all are supposed to keep in touch with our inner child...maybe if everyone in the world did, the world would be a better place.

Inner Child Speaks
by Marie T. Russell

The inner child sits and waits. It waits patiently for the
adult to notice it, to talk to it. It wonders how many more
nights, months, or years it must wait. It asks itself: "How
can I get her attention? How can I get her to talk to me,
to listen to me?"

It thinks back of its past experience with parents and
teachers and remembers that many times, to get attention,
one had to be bad or naughty. That always got attention.
So it wonders... if I am the inner child, how can I be
bad or naughty and get the attention of my adult self?
The child, trusting her intuition, does what comes up.

The adult finds herself compulsively eating, getting into
fits of anger, sadness, and fear. As a rational adult, she
cannot see where this behavior is coming from. As a
conscious person, she feels that this has to do with some
unresolved issues. What are they? What is the problem
here? she questions.

The child cries out! Listen to me! Pay attention to me! I
can help you. I have many insights for you, and much joy.
We can have so much fun together, so many experiences
of love and laughter. Reach in to me. Touch me, feel me,
heal me, and I in turn will touch you, feel you, and heal

The adult feels confused. She feels the need to nurture
and be nurtured. She senses that she is wounded, yet
cannot see the wound. She feels that something is trying
to come to the surface. What is it?

The child cries out, Its me! Im here crying out for you.
I need you. I love you. I can be your partner, your
helper, your guide. All you need is to start acknowledging
my presence. Stop ignoring me. Stop pretending that you
are all grown up and are past that stage. Come back to
earth. Come back to being present in this body after all
its the only one you got and its all ours. Yours and mine.
The inner child and the adult.

I am the part of you that you have hidden inside the
sensitive one, the caring loving one, the exuberant one!
Thats me! You have become the serious one, the one that
has no time to play, to simply be. You are the busy one...
wanting to do better, to improve, to advance your growth,
your career, your relationship, etc. I simply want to be
mostly joyful and happy.

Its ok to be sad now and then, but I dont like to
stretch that stuff out. I feel it, let it out, and move on!
The adult that you are seems to enjoy mucking around in
that stuff. Not me! Im a child, and I want to play and
enjoy life. I dont believe that we are here to be
miserable. I think some miserable people made that up so
that everyone would be miserable like them. Well, I dont
buy it! I trash that thought!

I think that God made us and God loves us, and He/She
surely wants us to be happy! After all, dont all parents
want their children to be happy, deep down? Its just that
because they have buried their own inner child, they think
that happy means having a good job, a big house, secure
income, and all that stuff. We inner children know that is
all crap. Whats important is the love and the joy and the
simplicity. We dont need fancy toys. We just need a
loving lap that we can sit on and feel loved. And then we
can make up toys as we go along.

You adults make it so complicated! Give us a KISS. Yes!
K.I.S.S. Keep it simple silly! Look inside yourself and
invite your inner child to come out and play. Tell it that
its ok. That you wont scream at it anymore, won't tell it
to go away, or tell it that its not behaving appropriately.
A-prop-riot-e-lie. Thats a big word that I learned from
you. I know what a prop is. I know what a riot is. I know
what a lie is. All those words together just dont make any
sense to me. Except that maybe behaving appropriately is a
lie which becomes a prop for a riot. Did you ever think
about that?

You told me that it was not a-prop-riot-e behavior to
dance in the street, or to sing with the birds, or to talk
to the new people that I discovered on the street you
call those people strange-hers. You told me that it is not
appropriate to be playful and childlike, and that I had to
act your age. Well I've got news for you. Im an inner
child and I am eternally young... so my age is whatever I
choose. And today I choose to be five years old. So it is
okay for me to sing and dance and love everyone I meet,
because I know that God loves me, and that I am loved by
everyone because God is in everyone.

Do you know what is not appropriate? When you frighten
me with your grown-up mixed-up beliefs. You have a
picture of the world that I do not like, and you try to
frighten me into doing what you want by telling me about
your picture. Well your picture is all wrong! Do you know
why? Because your picture has a nasty God in it that
punishes children and he gets very angry when they make a
mistake. Well, my God loves me and loves you too. And my
God does not frighten little children. Instead S/He
provides birds that make music, fruit trees for food, sun
for light and warmth, grass to roll on and lay on, animals
to play with, and lots of other good things.

Your picture is just a horror movie that you have made
up, and I dont watch horror movies. So if you insist on
watching a horror picture, keep me out of it. Dont even
tell me about it. I dont like to hear yucky stories. They
make my belly and my heart hurt.

But if you decide that you would like to watch and live a
beautiful love story with me, then simply switch channel to
the Inner Child channel. You and I can get to know each
other and then we can have some fun as well as some love
and peace together.

You probably dont even know where I am. Well, thats
because Im scared of you and Ive been hiding. I would
suggest you tame me, just as if you were dealing with a
scared kitten. Just imagine that your inner child is a
scared kitty hiding under the bed. What do you do? Well
maybe you start talking gently and lovingly to it even
though you cant see it. And then maybe you bring it a
saucer of warm milk (for me a saucer of unconditional love
will do), and then you back off a little and keep talking

After a while, I may peek around the corner to make sure
that you are really for real and that you wont judge me
and criticize me again... after all, you have done that a
lot. And if I feel that you are really ready to love me and
be nice to me, Ill come out and we can talk and play.

Another way that you can get in touch with me is to
listen to what you call your intuition. Lots of times that is
me telling you what would be great for us. So the next
time you feel that it would be good for you to go for a
walk, or to sing out loud, or to dance... pay attention.
Thats probably me making my presence known. And the
more you spend time doing the kind of things that I like,
the more you will start feeling me there, and enjoying our
time together.

And keep talking to me. Soon youll start hearing me. You
see, I talk very softly cause Im little and sometimes Im
scared of you cause youre big and you talk loud and
gruff. So listen softly, and then youll hear me. And
remember I love you and I really want to spend time with
you. And I know that once you start spending time with
me, youll be much happier than you are now. Youll find
yourself singing and maybe even taking silly little dance
steps in the street. And the people around you will start
smiling for no apparent reason when you walk by, because
their own inner child will recognize me and will also pop up
to the surface.

Can I come out and play? I love you a whole bunch! I
hope youll come visit often and invite me to hang out with
you a lot too! We can really have a great time together,
you and I."

With Love,
Your Inner Child

About The Author

Marie T. Russell is the publisher of InnerSelf Magazine and The Natural
Yellow Pages. She produced a weekly South Florida radio broadcast, Inner
Power, from 1992-1995 which focused on themes such as self-esteem,
personal growth, and well-being.. Her articles focus on transformation and
reconnecting with our own inner source of joy and creativity. Marie can be
reached at with personal comments or feedback.
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