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23 March 2010 @ 08:23 pm
Demure from Innuendo?  
I'm a pretty childlike and naive woman. At 31 years old, I've yet to figure out how to firmly but kindly fend off (or better yet, prevent) sexual come-ons from men. I dress very modestly and am a confirmed and pledged celibate. And yet, every few days some man will find me on the street, or at my job, or at the gas station and proceed to foist his opinions onto me. I don't find such come-ons flattering. I loathe them and fear them. I want nothing to do with the world of sexual politics, of flirtation and debauchery. How can I say to that world, "Leave me out of it!", shy of cutting my face off?

Suggestions? Strategies?

I just wish there were some kind of lapel pin that universally exempts one from jaunty interpelations of sexuality... Some kind of off button for men who think they're paying a complement, but are really making me lose sleep.

One thing I know is that I'm too meek about fending this stuff off. Yet, I don't want to start any issues, just kindly shut down such attentions.

Thank you!
 
 
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白雪-曙霏: 可愛小女生brighidn on March 25th, 2010 12:25 am (UTC)
Cheers, Nikki!

It's nice to meet someone else with this issue! Thanks for peeping up. :>

I'm comfortable explaining I'm celibate, being a nun, but rarely these days wear a full habit. Nuntheless, I wear very modest dress. Yet even a habit or modest dress doesn't seem to say "no" before I have to. I've run across several people who seem to take celibacy as a "challenge"... So I guess perhaps even a universal sexual neutrality symbol would probably be a turn on for a chunk of men. :S Though it might be a nifty notion.

You're probably right; I just need to be more direct about fending off advances, most of the time.